Curvy Vs Skinny

Lately I have been feeling quite angry at the female population. Not all women, but those who try to increase confidence by creating self-loathing in others, perhaps they are not doing this purposefully, but they do it none the less. Women are promoting their bodies via social networking sites in a way that has never been done before. Perhaps to give themselves an ego boost, perhaps to help others, or maybe it’s just for fame.

Website after website have been popping up giving "curvy women" confidence in their bodies. "Real women have curves" is one of my favourites, I mean really? I thought that if you had two of the same chromosome you were a women? Obviously I was wrong and it’s the size of the meat on your chest and bottom.

I understand the need to fight back against the media portraying size zero as desirable. But to transcend from one look to another does not help women suffering with body issues. Curvy is as unattainable to as many women, if not more, than curvy women wanting to be slim. In promoting a single physique we are destroying the natural beauty of women who do not fit in to that box.

Some have been putting up pictures of themselves “showing their flaws” that they hate because “this is why (they) have no confidence” if you had no confidence you wouldn’t be able to show your body to anyone, let-a-lone the entire world. It’s this competitive nature that is naturally in all of us, we feel the need, even on some deeper physiological level, to put others down to make ourselves feel better. It’s like as kids when the bullied became the bully. 

I know how it feels to be on both ends of the spectrum and all that in between. When I was a child I was underweight and was poked and prodded with needles to make sure I was healthy. Then I was put on a strict high calorie diet and I started to put on weight. This worked too well and as I transcended in to early teens I started gaining excessive weight and was considered morbidly obese, at which point I was sent to a dietician who told me I was fat and needed to lose weight. She put me on a strict low calorie diet and no matter how much I tried to stick to it, I never would. One day I snapped, I was fed up of being told I was fat, ugly and unhealthy by everyone, the media, friends, teachers, family, doctors, I decided to go on a strict diet. Admittedly not the healthiest of diets as it involved taking all food out of the equation and excessive exercise. That brings me to today and I’m still considered unwomanly and ugly but not for being curvy and voluptuous like I was, no, now it’s because I lost my curves and I’m slim.

See this is what we do to each other, we rip each other apart because were not the same. No matter what flaws you feel you have, someone will always look at you and want something you have got. We are all women, we give birth, we strive for equality, we can multi task, we are strong, we carry on the human race for gods sake. Whether we be skinny, fat, slim, curvy, apple shaped, pear shaped, big busted, flat chested, big bottomed, or bottomless we are beautiful.

So put an end to all of this shape and size bullshit!