Fetish has finally crossed over in to mainstream, causing a stir on this seasons catwalks. The weird and wonderful however,does not stop there with PVC and latex effects transcending on to the make-up and beauty scene, but continues with the larger lady being the fashionable body type.
People have been unhappy with their looks for years. Since the advances and availability of surgery it has become a trend to change these dissatisfying natural features. But has it gone too far?
At the moment curvy is in.We are seeing a huge change in the media and fashion industry with plus sized women such as Tess munster being snapped up by modeling agencies. This, some say is a step in the right direction, but are we not just swapping one extreme for the other? We are yet again letting the media pigeon hole what is perceived as beautiful and condemning those who do not have the right attributes.
People who suffer from Body Dysmorphic disorder are excessively concerned and pre occupied by a perceived defect in his or her physical features. This unhappiness can cause psychological distress, sever depression, anxiety and complete social isolation. The need to fit in to the norm and present themselves as the idea of perfection is becoming harder, it seems, with every new trend. With the constant criticism by the media and other women competing to be better than the other with comments like "real women have curves" and "fat means ugly" we will never be content.
Perhaps we should all just stop and put forward the fact that all women are beautiful in their own way. How far are we going to go?
Fashion icon Lady Gaga has been seen sporting flesh coloured spikes on her face and shoulders that look like sub-dermal implants in her new video ‘Born this way’ and on Jay Leno. This is apparently the latest trend in body modification in which metal shapes or even items of jewellery are implanted under the skin. It is questionable whether these are convincing prosthetic or surgically implanted.
She claimed on Gayle King’s US chat show that ‘They’ve been there this whole time but I waited until I’d put Born This Way out for you to see them’. Fans have questioned her new look and the hypothesis they have come up with is that she is referring to a new race of humanity in which there is no discrimination and equality for all is prevalent in society.
Lady Gaga’s new look has been seen for years in magazines like Bizarre with articles further back than 2008 on Dennis Avner the human ‘tiger’ and Erik Sprague the Lizard man who have now found fame for their unusual looks. The question is with all this publicity surrounding sub-dermal implants will it become the norm and soon the desired look?
Facial piercing, branding and scaring have been popular throughout the years in primitive and modern cultures. Some tribes use body modifications as a right of passage. Today we see these piercings and modifications amongst our culture but they serve as an aesthetic purpose. These looks, which have become the norm, would have been frowned upon years ago however, now they have become almost desirable.
The constant development of body modification forces people to conform to the desired look and makes perfection harder to reach. People are fighting to fit in and this constant need results in plastic surgery and an increase in body dysmorphia. When the sizest nature of today's society is combined there is no way anyone will be happy.
Its one thing to change your nose, get a facelift or get breast augmentation surgery if you are unhappy, but to implant objects under your skin to reach an, as some would say, unnatural perfection is a step to far. It seems we are traveling down a road of which there is no return, the desired look becomes more and more eccentric and further away from our ancestors. Could this be seen as evolution or merely self-mutilation?
Wednesday, 28 January 2015
Curvy Vs Skinny
Lately I have been feeling quite angry at the female population. Not all women, but those who try to increase confidence by creating self-loathing in others, perhaps they are not doing this purposefully, but they do it none the less. Women are promoting their bodies via social networking sites in a way that has never been done before. Perhaps to give themselves an ego boost, perhaps to help others, or maybe it’s just for fame.
Website after website have been popping up giving "curvy women" confidence in their bodies. "Real women have curves" is one of my favourites, I mean really? I thought that if you had two of the same chromosome you were a women? Obviously I was wrong and it’s the size of the meat on your chest and bottom.
I understand the need to fight back against the media portraying size zero as desirable. But to transcend from one look to another does not help women suffering with body issues. Curvy is as unattainable to as many women, if not more, than curvy women wanting to be slim. In promoting a single physique we are destroying the natural beauty of women who do not fit in to that box.
Some have been putting up pictures of themselves “showing their flaws” that they hate because “this is why (they) have no confidence” if you had no confidence you wouldn’t be able to show your body to anyone, let-a-lone the entire world. It’s this competitive nature that is naturally in all of us, we feel the need, even on some deeper physiological level, to put others down to make ourselves feel better. It’s like as kids when the bullied became the bully.
I know how it feels to be on both ends of the spectrum and all that in between. When I was a child I was underweight and was poked and prodded with needles to make sure I was healthy. Then I was put on a strict high calorie diet and I started to put on weight. This worked too well and as I transcended in to early teens I started gaining excessive weight and was considered morbidly obese, at which point I was sent to a dietician who told me I was fat and needed to lose weight. She put me on a strict low calorie diet and no matter how much I tried to stick to it, I never would. One day I snapped, I was fed up of being told I was fat, ugly and unhealthy by everyone, the media, friends, teachers, family, doctors, I decided to go on a strict diet. Admittedly not the healthiest of diets as it involved taking all food out of the equation and excessive exercise. That brings me to today and I’m still considered unwomanly and ugly but not for being curvy and voluptuous like I was, no, now it’s because I lost my curves and I’m slim.
See this is what we do to each other, we rip each other apart because were not the same. No matter what flaws you feel you have, someone will always look at you and want something you have got. We are all women, we give birth, we strive for equality, we can multi task, we are strong, we carry on the human race for gods sake. Whether we be skinny, fat, slim, curvy, apple shaped, pear shaped, big busted, flat chested, big bottomed, or bottomless we are beautiful.
So put an end to all of this shape and size bullshit!
Website after website have been popping up giving "curvy women" confidence in their bodies. "Real women have curves" is one of my favourites, I mean really? I thought that if you had two of the same chromosome you were a women? Obviously I was wrong and it’s the size of the meat on your chest and bottom.
I understand the need to fight back against the media portraying size zero as desirable. But to transcend from one look to another does not help women suffering with body issues. Curvy is as unattainable to as many women, if not more, than curvy women wanting to be slim. In promoting a single physique we are destroying the natural beauty of women who do not fit in to that box.
Some have been putting up pictures of themselves “showing their flaws” that they hate because “this is why (they) have no confidence” if you had no confidence you wouldn’t be able to show your body to anyone, let-a-lone the entire world. It’s this competitive nature that is naturally in all of us, we feel the need, even on some deeper physiological level, to put others down to make ourselves feel better. It’s like as kids when the bullied became the bully.
I know how it feels to be on both ends of the spectrum and all that in between. When I was a child I was underweight and was poked and prodded with needles to make sure I was healthy. Then I was put on a strict high calorie diet and I started to put on weight. This worked too well and as I transcended in to early teens I started gaining excessive weight and was considered morbidly obese, at which point I was sent to a dietician who told me I was fat and needed to lose weight. She put me on a strict low calorie diet and no matter how much I tried to stick to it, I never would. One day I snapped, I was fed up of being told I was fat, ugly and unhealthy by everyone, the media, friends, teachers, family, doctors, I decided to go on a strict diet. Admittedly not the healthiest of diets as it involved taking all food out of the equation and excessive exercise. That brings me to today and I’m still considered unwomanly and ugly but not for being curvy and voluptuous like I was, no, now it’s because I lost my curves and I’m slim.
See this is what we do to each other, we rip each other apart because were not the same. No matter what flaws you feel you have, someone will always look at you and want something you have got. We are all women, we give birth, we strive for equality, we can multi task, we are strong, we carry on the human race for gods sake. Whether we be skinny, fat, slim, curvy, apple shaped, pear shaped, big busted, flat chested, big bottomed, or bottomless we are beautiful.
So put an end to all of this shape and size bullshit!
Breasts
Breasts, everyone loves them right? I mean, all you see is big breasts everywhere from the internet, social media, magazines, TV, Films, to the general outdoors. It does make me laugh when women complain that they have to shop at Bravisimo or that their womanly curves get them down, that they can’t shop in 'normal' shops or that the media should use women with 'more healthy' proportions.
Well as far as I know women with flat chests are healthy too and have problems buying bra’s that A. fit and B. look decent with what we have been given. In fact, all I can see in the media is women with big ol’boobs. Maybe we should promote all types including the small ones. But continuously I see a woman’s sexuality depicted by the size of her breasts. The most recent one that pops to mind is on Saints Row where you can decide how sexy your female character is from: not at all (flat chested) to the sexiest woman in the game (Huge chested).
With all this titty hype it is no wonder why so many women go under the knife. I myself have been saving up to get a boob job since I was 13 and the first person to see them, a doctor, told me how repulsive they were because I was born with “constricted, tubular, uneven, saggy breasts”. But that’s just it, I myself am making it worse by buying in to it. But I would like to have some sex appeal, why should I suffer or be classed, by society, as ugly because I was born defected and different?
I defy you to spend one day looking at every pair of breasts you see and the ones on people with any type of power or in the media will have a decent rack. The one film I have seen with a woman with a flat chest or small “in-perfect” boobs was the Swedish version of ‘The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo’ and America had to remake that with Rooney Mara with bigger, perkier, “more attractive” breasts.
At the end of the day they are for primarily for feeding our offspring so why has a woman’s sexuality become based on them? How dare we tell someone that they are unsexy because they have smaller lumps of fat under their skin; how dare we make women feel un confident with their natural beauty; how dare we make women who have undergone mastectomies, or had cancer, or been born with a defect feel like they have to hide, because they are “unsexy and ugly” merely for not having the right amount of flesh on their chests.
Well as far as I know women with flat chests are healthy too and have problems buying bra’s that A. fit and B. look decent with what we have been given. In fact, all I can see in the media is women with big ol’boobs. Maybe we should promote all types including the small ones. But continuously I see a woman’s sexuality depicted by the size of her breasts. The most recent one that pops to mind is on Saints Row where you can decide how sexy your female character is from: not at all (flat chested) to the sexiest woman in the game (Huge chested).
With all this titty hype it is no wonder why so many women go under the knife. I myself have been saving up to get a boob job since I was 13 and the first person to see them, a doctor, told me how repulsive they were because I was born with “constricted, tubular, uneven, saggy breasts”. But that’s just it, I myself am making it worse by buying in to it. But I would like to have some sex appeal, why should I suffer or be classed, by society, as ugly because I was born defected and different?
I defy you to spend one day looking at every pair of breasts you see and the ones on people with any type of power or in the media will have a decent rack. The one film I have seen with a woman with a flat chest or small “in-perfect” boobs was the Swedish version of ‘The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo’ and America had to remake that with Rooney Mara with bigger, perkier, “more attractive” breasts.
At the end of the day they are for primarily for feeding our offspring so why has a woman’s sexuality become based on them? How dare we tell someone that they are unsexy because they have smaller lumps of fat under their skin; how dare we make women feel un confident with their natural beauty; how dare we make women who have undergone mastectomies, or had cancer, or been born with a defect feel like they have to hide, because they are “unsexy and ugly” merely for not having the right amount of flesh on their chests.
Fad Diets
Fad Diets, we go through them like anything. From one to another with a binge break in the middle where we make excuses and put on the pounds we just lost. The diet industry makes thirty billion dollars yearly on people looking for a weight loss programme. That’s right, a whopping Thirty Billion on people like you and me, insecure and looking for that magic cure.
So why do we let them make money on our insecurities? Do you want the harsh truth? Laziness.
Let me explain, every time we pick up that new diet book we do it because it promises to be an easy way to lose those excess pounds. We wouldn’t pick it up, let alone follow it for a few weeks if it said “This is the hardest, longest most monotonous thing you will ever do.” No! We don’t want to work hard. We want to take a pill that will make us slim quickly without having to change our routine or life style at all. Unfortunately you can’t, so stop letting this industry make money from your insecurities and selling you lies.
You know deep inside that you’re not going to stick to that new diet and you know it’s not going to work, deep down you know the truth. I watched my mum do it and followed in her footsteps for years. I did the Atkins Diet, The Beverly hills diet, Weight watchers, No carb, Slimmers World, the fast diet, the cabbage diet, the list is endless. The truth is when you approach a diet like this you put pressure on yourself to stick to it, this unnecessary stress makes you want to eat. The more you tell yourself you can’t have something the more you want it, and what do we turn to when times are hard? Bad food!
So what should you do? If you really want to lose weight for yourself, not for anyone else; not for your boyfriend; not for that guy you fancy; not because you should to fit in or look like those girls in magazines; not to conform to whatever is considered beautiful at that time. If you want to do it for you, to be healthy , to feel better in your own skin or for whatever reason then it’s simple:
Eat Healthy and excersize.
That is it ladies, seriously, it’s not easy, but it works. All you have to do is make sure you stay away from bad foods that are high in fats and sugars, I’m not saying cut them out totally, you can treat yourself every now and then. You should have equal amounts of food from the three main groups, so a third of each:
Protein – Meat, cheese, Milk etc
Fruit and Veg – Fruit, Salad, Vegetables
Carbohydrate – Potatoes, pulses, BROWN pasta, rice, etc
Only eat when you are hungry and make sure you are not over eating. What you should do to begin with is eat slowly and drink water while you eat, when you are full stop. Swap your whites for your browns (carbohydrates), your sweets for fruit, your chips for salad, your pudding for a low calorie hot chocolate.
Get at least an hour of exercise in everyday, this is easy; you can walk to work instead of using public transport or driving; walk up the stairs instead of using elevators or escalators; Squat while your brushing your teeth; sit ups when laying down before sleeping at night; use every opportunity to get that extra bit in. I found the Insanity challenge really gave me a boost to begin with and after the two months I started running to and from work, the weight just fell off and has not come back.
Don’t forget, this is something my best friend told me and it stuck:
“Your weight is a constantly changing thing if you put on a few pounds one week work harder the next. Don’t punish yourself and allow yourself treats once in a while. You are a project that’s ever changing, learning and developing, keep at it and have fun.”
So why do we let them make money on our insecurities? Do you want the harsh truth? Laziness.
Let me explain, every time we pick up that new diet book we do it because it promises to be an easy way to lose those excess pounds. We wouldn’t pick it up, let alone follow it for a few weeks if it said “This is the hardest, longest most monotonous thing you will ever do.” No! We don’t want to work hard. We want to take a pill that will make us slim quickly without having to change our routine or life style at all. Unfortunately you can’t, so stop letting this industry make money from your insecurities and selling you lies.
You know deep inside that you’re not going to stick to that new diet and you know it’s not going to work, deep down you know the truth. I watched my mum do it and followed in her footsteps for years. I did the Atkins Diet, The Beverly hills diet, Weight watchers, No carb, Slimmers World, the fast diet, the cabbage diet, the list is endless. The truth is when you approach a diet like this you put pressure on yourself to stick to it, this unnecessary stress makes you want to eat. The more you tell yourself you can’t have something the more you want it, and what do we turn to when times are hard? Bad food!
So what should you do? If you really want to lose weight for yourself, not for anyone else; not for your boyfriend; not for that guy you fancy; not because you should to fit in or look like those girls in magazines; not to conform to whatever is considered beautiful at that time. If you want to do it for you, to be healthy , to feel better in your own skin or for whatever reason then it’s simple:
Eat Healthy and excersize.
That is it ladies, seriously, it’s not easy, but it works. All you have to do is make sure you stay away from bad foods that are high in fats and sugars, I’m not saying cut them out totally, you can treat yourself every now and then. You should have equal amounts of food from the three main groups, so a third of each:
Protein – Meat, cheese, Milk etc
Fruit and Veg – Fruit, Salad, Vegetables
Carbohydrate – Potatoes, pulses, BROWN pasta, rice, etc
Only eat when you are hungry and make sure you are not over eating. What you should do to begin with is eat slowly and drink water while you eat, when you are full stop. Swap your whites for your browns (carbohydrates), your sweets for fruit, your chips for salad, your pudding for a low calorie hot chocolate.
Get at least an hour of exercise in everyday, this is easy; you can walk to work instead of using public transport or driving; walk up the stairs instead of using elevators or escalators; Squat while your brushing your teeth; sit ups when laying down before sleeping at night; use every opportunity to get that extra bit in. I found the Insanity challenge really gave me a boost to begin with and after the two months I started running to and from work, the weight just fell off and has not come back.
Don’t forget, this is something my best friend told me and it stuck:
“Your weight is a constantly changing thing if you put on a few pounds one week work harder the next. Don’t punish yourself and allow yourself treats once in a while. You are a project that’s ever changing, learning and developing, keep at it and have fun.”
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)